241 – Adoptive Parents: You Don't Have to Attend Every Argument You're Invited To

About this episode

In this episode, Tim Maudlin discusses how adoptive parents can engage in conflicts with their children in a way that fosters connection rather than escalation.

Have you ever walked away from a conflict with your child wondering… “How do I stay connected without making things worse?” 💭 Maybe you've tried to explain.Maybe you've tried to reason.Maybe you've tried to fix the situation. And somehow, the conversation only became more tense. If that sounds familiar, this episode is for you. Hi Neighbor, In today’s episode, we’re wrapping up the PAUSE Plan with the final step: Engage. 🤝 Because eventually, every difficult moment requires a response. The question is not whether you'll engage. The question is how. When emotions are high, our instinct is often to take control, win the argument, or force a resolution. But connection isn't built by controlling the outcome. It’s built by how we show up in the moment. ❤️ In this episode, I share four simple ways to engage that help create safety instead of escalation. I also return once again to the night before Jonny left home and share what I learned about calm leadership in one of the most emotional conversations we've ever had. You'll discover why a soft answer is often stronger than a loud one, why connection matters more than winning, and how your child may remember how they felt with you…

People in this episode

Host: Tim Maudlin

Topics covered

• adoptive parenting
• conflict resolution
• emotional connection
• communication strategies
• PAUSE Plan
• calm leadership

Keywords

• adoption
• parenting
• conflict
• engagement
• emotions
• communication
• safety
• PAUSE Framework
• SHALOM

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