Why Criticism Feels So Painful for Ex-Boarders
About this episode
This episode explores the painful impact of criticism on individuals who attended boarding school, linking it to deep-seated emotional patterns.
In this episode, I explore why criticism can feel so painful for those of us who went to boarding school. For many ex-boarders, criticism does not simply feel like feedback. It can feel like danger. It can activate old patterns of shame, fear, compliance, dissociation or defensiveness. I reflect on boarding school conditioning, the fear of getting things wrong, Nick Duffell’s work on wounded leaders, David Cameron’s response to criticism, Rick Hanson’s “Velcro for negativity and Teflon for po...
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