#140 | Flirting and Courtship Pt 1 - Vikings, Romans and Medieval Europeans

About this episode

This episode explores the myth and history behind courtship practices in ancient societies such as the Vikings, Romans, and Medieval Europeans.

In this episode I explore the myth and history behind the courtship practices of a few select ancient societies. Listen in to learn why courtship was known as the most dangerous pastime for the young Icelandic man, where the origins of the madonna/whore complex may have come from, the difference in courtship between Rome the Republic and Rome the Empire, how did Romans think about matrimony, what was the chivalric code of honor, the medieval origins of ‘happy wife, happy life’ and much more. RESOURCES: https://www.vikinganswerlady.com/ https://www.youtube.com/@JacksonCrawford https://feminaeromanae.org/matrimonium.html https://www.supersummary.com/the-art-of-love-ovid/summary/ TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 — Intro 02:18 — Pre-Christian views on relationships 04:05 — Influence and control dynamics 06:12 — Why it seemed appealing 08:20 — Marriage as a social structure 10:07 — Psychological roots of attraction 12:15 — The “third way” idea 14:12 — How things used to be different 16:08 — Consequences and exile 18:20 — Purpose beyond procreation 20:35 — Marriage tied to wealth and land 22:42 — Honour, loyalty, and core values 24:50 — Masculinity and Chivalric Code 27:05 — Understanding infatuation…

People in this episode

Host: Anya Shakh

Topics covered

• courtship practices
• ancient societies
• marriage dynamics
• psychological roots of attraction
• chivalric code
• historical views on relationships

Keywords

• courtship
• marriage
• Icelandic culture
• Roman Republic
• chivalry
• attraction psychology
• medieval history

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Viking Answer Lady, Jackson Crawford, Feminae Romanae

Books & works: The Art of Love

Places: Iceland, Rome, Medieval Europe

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