148: To Be Selfless Is To Be Selfish

148: To Be Selfless Is To Be Selfish

From Anyway, Moving Forward with Libni by Libni Fortuna

April 14, 2026 · 17 min

About this episode

In this episode, Libni Fortuna discusses the importance of protecting your energy and the misconceptions surrounding selflessness and selfishness.

We’ve been taught that being selfish is wrong. That to be a good person, you give, you serve, you put others first. But what if that’s exactly what’s burning you out? In this episode, I unpack the truth behind the phrase “to be selfless is to be selfish” and why protecting your energy is not selfish—it’s necessary. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, drained, or resentful from always showing up for others… this conversation is for you. What we talk about: Why people-pleasing disconnects you from yourself The difference between selfishness and self-honoring Why you can’t pour from an empty cup (and what happens when you try) How over-giving creates resentment in relationships Why “saving” people can actually hold them back The truth about breakdowns and becoming How your outer world reflects your inner world The role of boundaries in self-mastery Key Takeaways: Protecting your energy allows you to give from alignment, not obligation You are not meant to save everyone Real love starts with self-connection Boundaries are your filter for a peaceful life Reflection Questions: Where am I overgiving out of guilt or fear? What would choosing myself look like today? Am I giving from fullness…

People in this episode

Host: Libni Fortuna

Topics covered

  • selflessness
  • selfishness
  • energy protection
  • people-pleasing
  • boundaries
  • self-connection

Keywords

  • self-care
  • burnout
  • overgiving
  • resentment
  • self-honoring
  • boundaries
  • energy management

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