About this episode

In this episode, Davina McCall and narcissism expert Kathleen Saxton discuss the complexities of narcissistic relationships and the impact of gaslighting on self-trust and identity.

Narcissism doesn’t just damage relationships, it can make you lose trust in yourself. In this episode of Begin Again, psychotherapist and narcissism expert Kathleen Saxton joins Davina to explain what narcissism really is, how gaslighting works, and why the damage can be so hard to recognise when you are still inside it. Kathleen breaks down the hidden patterns of narcissistic relationships: the charm, confusion, silent treatment, public/private switch, and the slow erosion of your confidence. Davina and Kathleen also explore narcissistic parents, trauma bonds, why leaving can feel impossible, and how growing up around narcissism can make you lose sight of who you really are. At its heart, this is a conversation about gaslighting, self-doubt, identity, and the long journey back to trusting yourself again. Kathleen Saxton reminds us that beginning again after narcissistic abuse is not about becoming harder. It is about finally learning to believe yourself. 🌟 Follow for more honest conversations about identity, growth, and beginning again. Buy 'My Parent the Peacock': https://www.amazon.co.uk/Parent-Peacock-Discovery-Narcissistic-Parenting/dp/1399822594 Follow us here: 📸…

People in this episode

Host: Davina McCall

Guest: Kathleen Saxton

Topics covered

• narcissism
• gaslighting
• self-doubt
• identity
• trauma bonds

Keywords

• narcissism
• gaslighting
• self-trust
• identity
• trauma bonds
• narcissistic abuse
• self-doubt

Mentioned in this episode

Products: My Parent the Peacock

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