He Says I’m Controlling But I’m Not – What You Need To Know

He Says I’m Controlling But I’m Not – What You Need To Know

April 21, 2026 · 43 min

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The episode discusses the signs of emotional abuse and the misconceptions surrounding accusations of being controlling in relationships.

Have you thought to yourself, “he says I’m controlling but I’m not.” If so, he’s likely emotionally and psychologically abusive. Here are 3 things to know. There are 19 different types of emotional abuse. To see if he’s emotionally abusive, take our free emotional abuse quiz . 1. But What If I’m Actually Controlling? If a man is emotionally mean and wants to keep hurting someone, he might call her actions to feel safe “controlling” to trick her into stopping. This doesn’t mean you should stop looking for the truth or setting boundaries for your emotional safety. To learn about the most strategic ways to deal with his control, check out The Betrayal Trauma Recovery Living Free Workshop . https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-mfE5cABLp4 You’re not controlling if your desire is simply to keep yourself and your children safe and healthy. 2. Why Does He Say I’m Controlling? An abuser tricks people by lying to his victim and he says i’m controlling but i’m not. Is lying emotional abuse ? Yes. It works a lot, and others around him believe his lies. But it’s not controlling to state your opinion or ask…

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Host: Anne Blythe

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