How to Find (and Keep) Deep Friendships

How to Find (and Keep) Deep Friendships

From Between Sundays with The Chandlers by Matt Chandler & Lauren Chandler

February 3, 2026 · 37 min · Season 1 · Episode 2

About this episode

Lauren and Matt discuss the importance of deep friendships and how to cultivate them in a Christ-centered life.

In this episode of Between Sundays , Lauren and I talk about something that’s foundational to life in Christ but often overlooked: friendship. God made us for connection. You and I were not designed to walk this life alone, and yet so many of us are doing just that. We unpack the epidemic of loneliness, how real transformation happens in community, how to pursue meaningful friendships, and how to discern who is safe to be vulnerable with. It’s not easy. It takes time. It takes risk. But it is also worth it. Our hope is that this conversation gives you vision and practical tools to form the kind of deep, gospel-centered friendships we all need. In This Episode [00:00] Lauren’s Dad Joke [02:00] The "At the Table" Series and the Loneliness Epidemic [04:49] Transformation Happens in Community [06:00] What Real Friendship Looks Like (and Why It’s Hard to Find) [09:02] Risk, Vulnerability, and the Role of Wisdom [10:00] How to Spot a Fool (and Why You Shouldn’t Be Friends with One) [13:10] Wise vs. Simple vs. Foolish: Who Can You Trust? [15:00] Belonging Deficits and Misreading Social Cues [18:00] Hurt, Healing, and How We Grow in Relationships [21:00] You Are Becoming Like Your…

People in this episode

Hosts: Matt Chandler, Lauren Chandler

Topics covered

  • friendship
  • community
  • loneliness
  • vulnerability
  • transformation
  • gospel-centered relationships

Keywords

  • friendship
  • community
  • loneliness
  • vulnerability
  • transformation
  • gospel
  • relationships

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: U.S. Surgeon General

Books & works: Proverbs 13:20, Proverbs 22:24–25

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