About this episode

Heidi shares her traumatic journey of betrayal and healing in her marriage, emphasizing the importance of being seen by God amidst the struggles.

The trauma in Heidi’s marriage didn’t start with a slow fade. It started the day after her wedding, when she answered a phone call from a woman her new husband had been sexually involved with. For the next 17 years, Heidi lived in the fog of a marriage that looked fine on the outside. But inside, she felt married to a stranger. Then the facade broke again when she discovered extensive pornography on her husband’s phone, and everything she had buried came rushing to the surface. Heidi opens up about the “messy middle” of healing—the exhausting vigilance, the high highs and low lows, the daily choice to ask hard questions instead of retreating into silence. And she shares the deepest truth she has discovered along the way: that God sees her. In the middle of the wreckage, He has been calling her His beloved daughter all along. If you have spent years silently carrying the weight of a marriage that feels hollow, Heidi’s story will remind you that you are not invisible. You are not forgotten. You are seen by the One who never looks away. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon…

People in this episode

Hosts: Emily Spigelmire, Johnny Spigelmire

Guest: Heidi

Topics covered

• marriage
• betrayal
• healing
• pornography addiction
• faith
• intimacy

Keywords

• marriage trauma
• sexual betrayal
• healing journey
• Christian faith
• pornography
• intimacy issues
• God's love

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Organizations: Beyond Broken Vows

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