Different Packaging, Same Harm: The Patterns We Swore We'd Left Behind

About this episode

Samantha Sellers explores how progressive communities can replicate harmful dynamics similar to those found in organized religion.

In this solo episode, Sam turns her attention to something that might be uncomfortable to sit with and that's the way progressive, supposedly safe communities can replicate the very dynamics of control and harm that so many of us fled organised religion to escape. Drawing on her own experiences, Sam examines how the instincts shaped by high-control environments don't just disappear when we land somewhere that looks different on the surface, and how even well-meaning communities can prioritise group harmony and reputation over genuine accountability to the people they've hurt. It's a sharp, honest look at the ways dissent gets managed rather than engaged, and an invitation to listeners to get curious about their own reflexes because the work of not repeating harmful patterns isn't a destination, it's a practice, and it starts with being willing to look at ourselves honestly. Connect You can find out more about Sam on her website - www.anchoredcounsellingservices.com.au To connect with Sam on Instagram - @anchoredcounsellingservices Want to contact with Sam about the podcast or therapy? Use this contact form. Also check out The Religious Trauma Collective

People in this episode

Host: Samantha Sellers

Topics covered

• progressive communities
• control dynamics
• accountability
• religious trauma
• self-reflection

Keywords

• progressive communities
• control
• harm
• accountability
• self-reflection
• religious trauma
• dissent

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: The Religious Trauma Collective

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