When The Pastor's Kid Comes Out

When The Pastor's Kid Comes Out

From Beyond The Surface by Samantha Sellers

June 3, 2026 · 1h 11m · Episode 113

About this episode

Jay discusses their experiences growing up as a pastor's kid while navigating queerness and gender identity amidst family expectations and personal challenges.

Jay (they/them) joins Sam to talk about growing up as a pastor's kid, navigating queerness and gender identity within a family deeply embedded in faith, and what it meant to wrestle with all of that while also surviving childhood leukemia. Jay is honest about the toll of living between personal truth and family expectation, and the work it takes to find your own voice when the people closest to you can't meet you there. It's a raw, grounded conversation about identity, religious trauma, and what it actually looks like to start living on your own terms. Connect with Us Connect with Jay over on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/jay.pesas You can find out more about Sam on her website - www.anchoredcounsellingservices.com.au To connect with Sam on Instagram - @anchoredcounsellingservices Want to contact with Sam about the podcast or therapy? Use this contact form. Also check out The Religious Trauma Collective

People in this episode

Host: Samantha Sellers

Guest: Jay

Topics covered

  • queerness
  • gender identity
  • religious trauma
  • family expectations
  • personal truth
  • childhood illness

Keywords

  • pastor's kid
  • queer identity
  • gender identity
  • religious trauma
  • childhood leukemia
  • family dynamics
  • personal growth

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: The Religious Trauma Collective, anchoredcounsellingservices.com.au, Facebook, Instagram

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