How To Be Alone (And Actually Enjoy It) With Dee Salmin

About this episode

Dee Salmin discusses modern dating and the benefits of enjoying one's own company.

This week on Small Talk, we’re joined by host of The Hook Up , writer and author Dee Salmin to unpack modern dating and the art of being single. Drawing from her new book It’s Not Love, Actually , Dee breaks down why butterflies might actually be anxiety, why being the 'cool girl' never works and the subtle ways we shape ourselves to attract men. Plus, we get into attachment styles, the benefits of being alone and why learning to enjoy your own company might be the key to better relationships. Big Small Talk Instagram Sarah-Jane's Instagram  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

People in this episode

Host: LiSTNR

Guest: Dee Salmin

Topics covered

• modern dating
• being single
• attachment styles
• enjoying solitude
• relationships

Keywords

• dating
• single
• anxiety
• cool girl
• attachment styles
• relationships
• self-discovery

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: The Hook Up

Books & works: It’s Not Love, Actually

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