About this episode

Randie discusses the emotional impact and realities of going No Contact with her family.

(After Model Home by Rivers Solomon and Bless the Daughter Raised by a Voice in her Head by Warsan Shire) Hey y’all, While Mike was in Guyana for the first time since 2001, Randie’s feelings caught up to her. Tune in as she reveals the real about going No Contact with her family. Brought on by a convo with Drew and the propaganda about No Contact being, “trendy” Randie tells you the truth. No Contact is the bottom. The last resort. Because in the words of Warsan Shire, “No one would leave home unless home chased you.” Who would self-orphan themselves for shits and giggles? Not Ran. Not many people, actually. While one of the best decision she’s made for herself, No Contact has left Randie achy and on many days full of grief. So, in this Indie, the shorter half of the BMM podcast invites you to learn what sovereignty of self and freedom has cost and required of her and other Adult Children making the hard decisions to live a life of integrity and courage. Items Mentioned: Model Home by Rivers Solomon, https://bookshop.org/p/books/model-home-a-novel-rivers-solomon/daba1ac77f597af3?ean=9781250397591&next=t Bless the Daughter Raised by a Voice in Her Head by Warsan Shire…

People in this episode

Hosts: Randie Chapman, Mikey Chapman

Topics covered

• No Contact
• family relationships
• self-sovereignty
• grief
• adult children
• integrity
• courage

Keywords

• No Contact
• family
• grief
• self-sovereignty
• adult children
• integrity
• courage

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: Model Home, Bless the Daughter Raised by a Voice in her Head

Places: Guyana

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