When You Don’t Fit In on Your Team: Helping Young Athletes Build Confidence and Connection
About this episode
Valerie Alston discusses how young athletes can build connection and confidence when they feel like outsiders on their team.
Feeling Like You Don’t Fit In on Your Team? How Young Athletes Can Build Connection & Confidence Host Valerie Alston discusses how common it is for youth athletes to feel like outsiders on a new team, when moving up age brackets, or transitioning from JV to varsity, and emphasizes that not fitting in doesn’t mean you don’t belong. She explains that teams aren’t necessarily friend groups; athletes don’t need to be best friends with everyone, but they do need trust, communication, respect, and support to compete together. The episode offers practical ways to find common ground: asking simple getting-to-know-you questions, giving compliments, communicating first, and bonding through shared practice and game experiences, while encouraging athletes to control what they can control, build confidence in being themselves, and aim for a few trusted connections. It concludes with conversation questions for families and ways to follow the show. 00:00 Feeling Left Out 01:11 Why It Happens 02:01 Team Not Friend Group 03:48 Connect On The Field 04:55 Find Common Ground 07:45 Small Circle Is Fine 09:27 Control What You Can 11:00 Conversation Rules 12:00 Guided Questions 16:21 Wrap Up And…
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