During Caregiving, They Defer While You Do It

About this episode

Denise M. Brown discusses the concept of deferring responsibilities in caregiving and how to manage expectations from family.

There's a word your family uses when they want to sound supportive. Defer. "We defer to you." "Whatever you think is best." "We know you've got it covered." That's not support. That's a load — handed to you, wrapped in a compliment. You can defer, too.This week on Caregiving Comforts, we're talking about how to hand something back and what to have ready if they don't show up. Resources Purchase Denise's five-book Take Comfort series so you always have comfort with you. Keep our support with you; download our Caring Our Way app from the App Store and Google Play store Image by Arletys Graphic Design from Pixabay Caregiving Comforts offers exactly what you need: 2-3 minutes of genuine understanding, comfort, and hope. Every Monday, Denise M. Brown shares reflections that speak directly to your caregiving reality—the exhaustion, the overwhelm, the moments when you wonder if life has canceled you.

People in this episode

Host: Denise M. Brown

Topics covered

• caregiving
• support
• family dynamics
• emotional burden
• self-care

Keywords

• caregiving
• support
• defer
• family
• responsibility
• emotional support
• self-care

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Caring Our Way app

Products: Take Comfort series

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