About this episode

The episode discusses how shame hinders accountability and healing after betrayal, featuring insights from Jacob Fletcher.

One of the biggest obstacles to healing after betrayal isn't a lack of love — it's shame. When the person in recovery floods with shame, they lose the ability to truly listen, hold space, or take accountability. And without that, trust cannot rebuild. In this episode, Hali sits down with Jacob Fletcher, a Certified Sexual Addiction Therapist (CSAT), to talk about what real relational healing requires — and why slowing down is often the fastest path forward. Whether you're the partner trying to understand why accountability feels so inconsistent, or the person in recovery trying to figure out how to actually show up — this episode gives you a real, honest look at the inner work required on both sides. Connect with Jacob Fletcher: Jacob Fletcher is a licensed mental health counselor and the founder of Pure Wellness Counseling where he specializes in helping individuals navigate trauma, addiction, and personal growth. He is a CSAT therapist and uses various modalities to help his clients find healing. You can also connect with him for coaching at Choose Recovery Services . Enjoyed This Episode? If this conversation resonated with you, here are 3 ways you can support the show: ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐…

People in this episode

Host: Hali

Guest: Jacob Fletcher

Topics covered

• shame
• accountability
• healing
• betrayal
• relationships

Keywords

• shame
• accountability
• healing
• betrayal
• relationships
• CSAT
• mental health

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Pure Wellness Counseling, Choose Recovery Services

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