The Skill Nobody's Born With
About this episode
This episode discusses the importance of teaching emotion regulation skills to children and provides practical strategies for parents.
A dad spends an entire summer teaching his son to ride a bike — holding the seat, running alongside, letting him wobble. Two weeks later, he's in the kitchen telling that same kid to "just calm down" during a meltdown over a broken cookie, with none of that same patience or teaching. No scaffolding. Just an instruction, expected to land on its own. In this episode: Why emotion regulation is a built skill, not something a child either has or doesn't have The three separate components a child's brain has to build to calm down: noticing escalation, pausing before reacting, and having a tool ready to use How this gap shows up differently for ADHD, autistic, and anxious kids, and why that matters for what to actually teach Concrete ways to start building the skill this week, including practicing the pause when nothing's wrong and building a visible toolbox before the storm hits Your kid isn't broken, and neither is your parenting — the skill just isn't finished being built yet. Resources mentioned: Why Your Kid Can't Calm Down — free training opens July 6 at www.climbingfishparenting.com/products
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