Why Most Marriages Fail (And How We Made It To 20 Years Without Quitting)

Why Most Marriages Fail (And How We Made It To 20 Years Without Quitting)

From Coming In Hot by Dear Media

April 6, 2026 · 54 min · Episode 102

About this episode

Caroline and John celebrate their 20-year marriage by discussing the stages of marriage and sharing their experiences and advice for lasting relationships.

Caroline and her husband John celebrate their 20-year anniversary on “Coming In Hot” by walking through a psychologist’s six stages of marriage and sharing what they’ve lived through so far, focusing on the honeymoon, realization, and rebellion stages. They openly discuss early red flags they ignored, especially around money, family dynamics, expectations, and communication, plus moments when the “rose-colored glasses” came off, including John getting fired and how he handled it. They talk about power struggles after kids, feeling controlled or resentful, and how having purpose, boundaries, lists, and honest conversations helped them rebuild connection. They share practical ways they stayed close—weekly date nights, travel, trying new things, and showing affection—while emphasizing respect, trust, patience, and not trying to change each other, ending with a playful lightning round and advice for making marriage last. 🎵Music Credit Nikka Costa – “It’s Just Love”  Follow Caroline: IG: https://www.instagram.com/shop.with.caroline/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@shop.with.caroline Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/beingcaroline Search Looks…

People in this episode

Host: Caroline

Guest: John

Topics covered

  • marriage
  • relationships
  • communication
  • self-improvement
  • anniversary

Keywords

  • marriage
  • anniversary
  • communication
  • relationships
  • self-improvement
  • red flags
  • boundaries

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Dear Media

Books & works: It’s Just Love

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