Gay Men: What You Were NEVER Taught About Bottoming (Dr. Evan Goldstein Explains)

About this episode

This episode features Dr. Evan Goldstein discussing the truths about bottoming and anal health for gay men.

What if everything you thought you knew about bottoming… was wrong? In this raw and eye-opening episode of Coming Inside OUT, we sit down with renowned surgeon Dr. Evan Goldstein to break down the truth about anal health, pleasure, and the realities gay men were never taught—especially those coming out later in life. From navigating shame and internalized stigma… to understanding your body, avoiding pain, and actually enjoying sex—this conversation goes where most never do. Whether you're new to bottoming, struggled with discomfort, or just want to feel more confident in your body, this episode delivers real answers without judgment. 💥 In This Episode: • The 3 types of assholes (and why it matters for sex) • Why “just relax” is terrible advice • How to avoid pain, tears, and common mistakes • The mental block most men don’t realize they have • Douching myths (and what actually works) • Why so many men feel like they’re “doing it wrong” • How to build confidence—at any age This is the conversation many of us wish we had years ago. Coming Inside OUT is a safe space where listeners can find solidarity, inspiration, and the courage to embrace their true selves. Whether you're a gay…

People in this episode

Hosts: Brian Janes, Mark Dembo

Guest: Dr. Evan Goldstein

Topics covered

• bottoming
• anal health
• gay men
• sexuality
• pleasure
• confidence

Keywords

• bottoming
• anal health
• gay men
• sexual pleasure
• confidence
• douching myths
• internalized stigma

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