About this episode

Patrick Kitana Ettenes shares his journey of navigating sexuality, gender, and the impact of dementia against the backdrop of his upbringing in Barbados.

When Patrick Kitana Ettenes bluntly told his father "I suck dick, daddy" at 15 years old, it marked just one turning point in a life brimming with extraordinary challenges and triumphs. Born in Barbados in 1983 to a Dutch father and Trinidadian mother, Patrick's childhood was a paradox of privilege and pain—his father's high-profile security work with prime ministers and diplomats couldn't shield him from relentless bullying due to his feminine expression. Patrick's shocking classroom experi...

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