You ARE Hurting Your Kids (And What to Do About It)

You ARE Hurting Your Kids (And What to Do About It)

May 6, 2026 · 29 min · Episode 166

About this episode

In this episode, Ann Kaplan discusses the reality of parenting mistakes and the importance of self-awareness in the journey of being a parent.

This is one of those episodes that might sting a little… and also might be the biggest exhale you've had in a while. Because if you're a thoughtful parent—if you care this much—you've probably already had the thought: "What if I'm messing them up?" So instead of dancing around it, we're just going to tell the truth: You are. We all are. And that's not actually the problem. In this episode, I'm sharing what came up at a recent Enneagram experience—when a mom asked the question that every parent is quietly holding: "What do I do with the realization that I've hurt my kid?" What We Get Into Why it's not possible to parent without hurting your child The moment self-awareness turns into shame (and what to do instead) How your Enneagram type shows up in your parenting (whether you like it or not) Why trying to "fix yourself" fast actually backfires What repair really looks like—and what it's not The Part Most Parents Don't Want to Hear (But Need To) The goal isn't to become a perfect parent. The goal is to become a self-aware one. Because your kids don't need you to never mess up. They need you to: See yourself clearly Own what's yours Stay present when it's uncomfortable That's the…

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