Your Body Remembers What Your Mind Forgets - (With John Kilmer)
About this episode
The episode explores how emotions are stored in the body and the impact of early experiences on trust and self-expression.
What if your body has been keeping a record your mind never agreed to? In this episode, Glenn and Phyllis sit down with John Kilmer — occupational therapist, life coach, and newly certified Connection Coder — for a conversation about how emotion lives in the body long after the moment has passed. John shares what it was like to grow up between countries, why a hospital stay at 18 months still shapes how he trusts, and how his five-year-old recently named his own fear and shame out loud instead of hiding it. Phyllis opens up about coming to the U.S. as a child who couldn't yet read or write English, and learning to disappear. Together they unpack somatic work, the nervous system, and why simply being present in our own bodies can feel terrifying — and freeing. In this episode: How a five-year-old used the Core Emotion Wheel to self-disclose instead of hide Why "the issues are in the tissues" — and what somatic work actually means The 90-second life of an emotion, and what happens when we cut it short Growing up as a "third culture kid" and the quiet grief no one named Why looking into another person's eyes for four minutes changes us biochemically Loneliness…
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