Collecting Penguins, Noticing the Good That Our Kids Do and Not Just the Bad - Rethinking our Kids Scorecard

About this episode

The episode encourages fathers to focus on celebrating the positive behaviors of their children rather than just correcting mistakes.

Episode 255 - Collecting Penguins, Noticing the Good That Our Kids Do and Not Just the Bad - Rethinking our Kids Scorecard Instead of focusing mostly on mistakes, frustration, and correction, this episode encourages fathers to notice, name, and celebrate the good things their kids do every day. In this episode, Dave shares a powerful story heard on another podcast about a father who began collecting penguins as a visual reminder to notice what he likes more than what he doesn’t. The story centers on a child who loved penguins, and on a parenting shift that happened when the father realized his son was getting most of his attention for negative behavior, while good behavior often went unnoticed. That insight becomes the heart of the conversation here: children can end up learning that acting out gets attention, while doing well gets silence. Dave connects that idea to everyday fatherhood, pointing out how easy it is to keep an invisible scorecard of what kids get wrong while forgetting to count their wins, kindness, effort, and growth. He shares a real-time moment with his granddaughter to show how quickly encouragement can change the tone of a child’s day. The episode also offers…

People in this episode

Host: Dave Campbell

Topics covered

• parenting
• positive reinforcement
• child development
• fatherhood
• celebrating achievements

Keywords

• parenting
• positive feedback
• children's behavior
• fatherhood
• encouragement
• scorecard
• penguins

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: another podcast, Collecting Penguins

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