Sexless Marriage… Wait, is My Wife Gay?!

Sexless Marriage… Wait, is My Wife Gay?!

From Dad Starting Over by Dad Starting Over

May 15, 2026 · 11 min · Episode 378

About this episode

The episode explores the complexities of a sexless marriage when a wife redirects her sexual desire towards another woman.

A guy reached out to me after 15 years of marriage and a completely dead bedroom. No intimacy. No desire. Nothing. Then one day, he finds out his wife is cheating. But not with another man… with another woman. Now he’s trying to make sense of it: Is she gay? Is this just a phase? Why does she suddenly have a sex drive again… just not with him? In this episode, I break down what’s really going on when a woman checks out of a marriage and redirects her desire somewhere else. We talk about: • Why female sexuality tends to be more fluid than most men realize • What the research actually says about attraction and arousal • Evolutionary psychology theories behind same-sex exploration • Why sexless marriages don’t mean “low libido” • The uncomfortable truth most men avoid facing If you’re in a sexless marriage or feel like your wife has completely lost interest in you, this will hit close to home. Start with my book here: https://deadbedroomfix.com If you want support from men who understand this and won’t sugarcoat things, check out the Brotherhood: https://helpformen.com/join

People in this episode

Host: Dad Starting Over

Topics covered

  • sexless marriage
  • female sexuality
  • infidelity
  • same-sex attraction
  • marriage dynamics
  • male perspective

Keywords

  • sexless marriage
  • female sexuality
  • infidelity
  • same-sex attraction
  • marriage
  • desire
  • libido

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Brotherhood, deadbedroomfix.com, helpformen.com

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