Brian and Judson hookup with ‘Blue Film’ writer and director Elliot Tuttle and talk adolescent sexuality, slippery morality, what overindexing on queer joy does to taste levels, and Daddying vs fathering

About this episode

Brian and Judson discuss adolescent sexuality and morality with filmmaker Elliot Tuttle, exploring themes of queer joy and dating.

Brian and Judson are joined by Elliot Tuttle, writer and director of Blue Film, available on VOD Friday, June 12. Elliot talks about the various responses he has received to his universally lauded film about a night shared between a camboy and a pederast, and how the story came to him. Judson is inspired by Elliot to reflect on his own past relationships with older men when he was in middle and high school. Elliot also tells Brian and Judson about his path from child movie critic to filmmaker, and explains his belief that the current emphasis on “queer joy” is ruining the taste of gay people. Finally, he goes deep into his favorite topic—dating—and particularly how he’s found his way to having so much fun with it. The episode ends with a Go Ask Your Dad question from a Daddy in a college town who is having trouble finding men his own age, and inadvertently ends up becoming a father figure to the younger men he dates.

People in this episode

Hosts: Brian Rubin-Sowers, Judson Morrow

Guest: Elliot Tuttle

Topics covered

• adolescent sexuality
• queer joy
• morality
• dating
• fathering
• relationships

Keywords

• adolescent sexuality
• queer joy
• morality
• dating
• Blue Film
• relationships
• fathering

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: Blue Film

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