S22E9: How To Spot A Narcissist (And Not Give Them Your Time & Attention) w/ Dr. Alina Kastner

About this episode

The episode discusses how to identify narcissists and protect oneself from toxic relationships with insights from Dr. Alina Kastner.

Whether you’ve questioned if someone in your life might be a narcissist or just want to better understand toxic relationship patterns, we’re breaking down what narcissism really looks like and how to protect yourself. We’re joined by Dr. Alina Kastner, who shares why these relationships are so detrimental and how to recognize the warning signs to gtfo of these unhealthy dynamics. We're discussing what really defines define narcissistic abuse, why narcissists often target the people you'd least expect, and how to heal from this type of relationship if you were to find yourself in this situation. TW: This episode talks about psychological abuse and touches on sexual and physical abuse. To learn more about Dr. Alina Kastner follow her @dr.alinakastne and go to https://www.alinakastner.com/en. Get her new book 'Break Up With Narcissism: How to Break Free and Stay Free – the 4-step Plan For Surviving Narcissistic Abuse' wherever books are sold. ---- Take our Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/ Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/ Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get…

People in this episode

Hosts: Yue Xu, Julie Krafchick

Guest: Dr. Alina Kastner

Topics covered

• narcissism
• toxic relationships
• psychological abuse
• narcissistic abuse
• healing from abuse

Keywords

• narcissism
• toxic relationships
• warning signs
• psychological abuse
• healing

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: How To Be Dateable, Dateable AI Dating Coach

Books & works: Break Up With Narcissism: How to Break Free and Stay Free – the 4-step Plan For Surviving Narcissistic Abuse

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