About this episode

Maria Bello discusses sexual fluidity and the complexities of shifting sexual preferences with the Sugars.

This episode was originally published on March 3, 2017. "Whatever"— that's how the actress Maria Bello describes her sexual orientation. Her "love who you love" attitude toward sexuality, regardless of gender, is often referred to as fluidity. Maria joins the Sugars this week to discuss a couple of letters having to do with the confusion and complications that can accompany a shift in one's sexual preferences and partnerships. She wrote about the evolution of her own family structure in her 2013 Modern Love column for The New York Times, " Coming Out As a Modern Family ," which she later turned into the book, " Whatever...Love is Love: Questioning the Labels We Give Ourselves ."

People in this episode

Guest: Maria Bello

Topics covered

• sexual fluidity
• sexual orientation
• relationships
• identity
• family structure

Keywords

• sexual fluidity
• Maria Bello
• relationships
• sexual orientation
• family structure

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: The New York Times

Books & works: Coming Out As a Modern Family, Whatever...Love is Love: Questioning the Labels We Give Ourselves

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