About this episode
The episode explores the dynamics of sexless relationships from the perspective of those who desire less sex than their partners.
This episode was originally released on October 28th, 2017. Sex-starved, meet sex-hounded. Recently, the Dear Sugars inbox was flooded with responses to the two-part episode “Sexless Relationships” with Esther Perel. In those episodes, the Sugars answered letters from people who were longing for sexual intimacy with their partners. But many readers asked why we didn’t address the other side of sexless relationships: the people who want less sex than their partners. In today’s episode, we hear from a letter writer who feels pressured by her partner to have sex. “Every night — EVERY NIGHT — when we get in bed, he rubs my back to see if he can arouse me,” writes the letter writer." "Enough is enough.” Cheryl Strayed and Steve Almond dig into the power dynamics that play out when one partner constantly demands sex. Then, they attempt to answer the question, “Is there such a thing as wanting too much sex?”
People in this episode
Hosts: Cheryl Strayed, Steve Almond
Topics covered
- sexless relationships
- sexual intimacy
- power dynamics
- relationship pressure
- sexual desire
Keywords
- sexless relationships
- sexual intimacy
- power dynamics
- relationship pressure
- Esther Perel
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