The Little Extra Hug (And Other Things My Brain Needs)

About this episode

In this episode, Lauren Howard explores the complexities of public performance versus private validation, hyperfixation on makeup, and the uneven capabilities that can lead to feelings of shame.

I didn’t plan to talk about George Carlin. Or mascara. Or why I apparently cannot send a calendar invite without causing structural damage. But here we are. Hi, I’m Lauren Howard . You can call me L2. Like other people do. In this episode of Different, Not Broken , I talk about why I can speak into a microphone for 100,000 strangers… and feel deeply uncomfortable when someone I actually know tells me they listened. I unpack the idea of the “little extra hug” you can only get from strangers. Why performing publicly can feel easier than being known privately. Why validation from the internet feels different than validation from your neighbour. We also take a very sharp turn into hyperfixation. Makeup hyperfixation, specifically. What it feels like when your brain latches onto something and turns it into a full-blown research project. How dopamine gets mined in drawers full of blush and setting spray. And why sometimes that joy is less frivolous than it looks. Then we talk about the contradiction that lives underneath all of it. Being wildly capable in a crisis. Building businesses in your head in seconds. And being absolutely useless at routine admin. This episode is about uneven…

People in this episode

Hosts: Lauren Howard, L2

Topics covered

• mental health
• public speaking
• validation
• hyperfixation
• capability
• shame

Keywords

• George Carlin
• mascara
• calendar invite
• little extra hug
• dopamine
• routine admin

Mentioned in this episode

Products: blush, setting spray

Books & works: Different, Not Broken

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