What We're Leaving in Our 40's

About this episode

Tanya and Tami discuss the changes and challenges they face as they approach their 50s, focusing on what they are leaving behind from their 40s.

We're a month into 49 — the last year before half a century — and things are already moving. Tanya's watching her daughter launch into adulthood. Tami's navigating a spring without baseball for the first time in years. And somehow we ended up in the deep end: what we're done carrying into the second half — anticipatory anxiety, playing small, fawning, and the roles we never actually signed up for. Because that's what 49 is turning out to be. The discomfort of changing your role in a relationship. The book quietly rearranging how we see ourselves. Why we're both turning our earbuds off on walks. And the question we're sitting with heading into 50: how do I want to feel? Not a bucket list. Just two twins, one honest conversation, and a whole lot of unlearning.

People in this episode

Hosts: Tanya Powell, Tami Brittenham

Topics covered

• life transitions
• parenting
• self-discovery
• anxiety
• relationships
• unlearning

Keywords

• life changes
• anticipatory anxiety
• parenting
• self-improvement
• relationships
• unlearning

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