About this episode

Dr. Matt James discusses the reflections of personal growth found in relationships with his daughter Skylar.

Your partner is your shadow. The closest mirror you’ll ever look into.   You let them sleep in the same bed with you. So whatever you see in them, the thing that irritates you, the thing you wish they’d change, that’s a reflection of something inside you waiting to be dealt with. That’s hard to swallow. It’s also where the real growth lives.   In this episode, I sit down with my daughter Skylar back home in Hawaii and talk about something that comes up with almost every relationship client I coach: how do you actually get better at your relationship?   You’ll learn: Why “grow together or grow apart” is more than an old saying How polarities attract so the two of you can find harmony (big picture meets detailed, introvert meets extrovert) What to do with the trait in your partner that drives you up the wall Why doing your own growth work can quietly create friction at home How to decide whether your partner should walk this path with you When you harmonize inside yourself, you stop traveling the road alone and start bringing the people you love along with you.   Check out live trainings at trainings.nlp.com…

People in this episode

Host: Dr. Matt James

Guest: Skylar

Topics covered

• relationship growth
• self-reflection
• personal development
• communication
• harmony in relationships

Keywords

• relationships
• personal growth
• self-improvement
• NLP
• communication skills

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Empowerment, Inc.

Places: Hawaii, Phoenix, Fort Lauderdale, Atlantic City, San Diego

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