Episode 255: Is Your Teen Being Sneaky—or Just Growing Up?

Episode 255: Is Your Teen Being Sneaky—or Just Growing Up?

From Feeding The Mouth That Bites You: Parenting Teens Into Adulthood by Kenneth Wilgus, Cynthia Yanof

June 16, 2026 · 29 min

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The episode discusses the nuances of teenage behavior and how parents can differentiate between normal independence and concerning secrecy.

Fake Instagram accounts. Secret relationships. Hidden piercings. Skipped classes. Every parent eventually discovers something their teen didn't tell them—and it raises the question: Is this normal teenage behavior, or is there something deeper going on? In this episode, Dr. Ken and Cynthia discuss why teens become "sneaky" and how to tell the difference between healthy independence and behavior that deserves closer attention. Together, they tackle everything from Finstas (fake Instagram accounts) and hidden relationships to bad grades, skipping school, tattoos, piercings, and phone privacy. Along the way, Dr. Ken explains why some sneaky behavior is actually a normal part of adolescence, how certain parenting styles can unintentionally encourage secrecy, and what parents should do when they discover something they don't like. If you've ever found yourself wondering whether your teen is hiding something—or simply growing up—this episode offers practical guidance for raising honest kids while helping them become independent adults. If you have a minute, please leave us a review. We love hearing listeners encouraging other listeners. You can order Dr. Ken's book "Feeding The Mouth…

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