Why You Keep Repeating the Same Relationship Patterns | Vienna Pharaon on Healing "Origin Wounds"

About this episode

Vienna Pharaon discusses how childhood experiences shape relationship patterns and the concept of 'origin wounds'.

Licensed therapist and bestselling author Vienna Pharaon joins JoJo Simmons on the For Good podcast to unpack how our childhood experiences shape the way we show up in relationships. Drawing from her book The Origins of You, Vienna explains how "origin wounds" form — and how understanding them can help us break unhealthy patterns in love, family, and life. Why do we keep repeating the same relationship patterns — even when we know they aren't good for us? In this episode of the For Good podcast, JoJo Simmons sits down with licensed marriage and family therapist Vienna Pharaon for a powerful conversation about how our childhood experiences shape the way we love, trust, and connect with others. Drawing from her bestselling book The Origins of You, Vienna introduces the concept of "origin wounds" — the emotional patterns formed in our earliest relationships that often follow us into adulthood. Throughout the conversation, Vienna breaks down how family dynamics, unmet emotional needs, and early experiences can influence everything from communication styles to the partners we choose. She also shares how self-awareness, accountability, and intentional healing can help people break…

People in this episode

Host: Joseph "JoJo" Simmons

Guest: Vienna Pharaon

Topics covered

• relationship patterns
• origin wounds
• childhood experiences
• self-awareness
• healing
• communication styles

Keywords

• relationship patterns
• origin wounds
• childhood experiences
• self-awareness
• healing
• communication
• emotional needs

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: The Origins of You

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