Why your friends' dating advice might be hurting you, with Yue Xu & Julie Krafchick

About this episode

This episode explores how friends' dating advice can impact romantic relationships, featuring insights from Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick.

As much as we'd like to think our romantic relationships exist apart from our friendships, the research says otherwise. Your friends' opinions can determine whether a couple stays together, influence the values they hold in the relationship, and even shape the kinds of arguments they have. And that influence starts long before a woman is partnered; it starts while she's still dating. In this episode, Danielle sits down with Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick, co-hosts of the Dateable podcast and authors of How to Be Dateable , to explore how your friends can be your greatest asset on your dating journey, or your biggest unintentional roadblock. They break down five dating archetypes, what each one looks like in action, and how to give the right kind of support to the right kind of dater; because the advice that helps one friend can sabotage another. 🎧 BUT WAIT… THERE'S MORE. This week's bonus content for Office Hours members includes an exclusive video from Danielle breaking down four surprising research-based ways your friends can impact your romantic relationships, plus a bonus segment of this interview you won't hear in the free episode. Members of Office Hours get supplementary…

People in this episode

Host: Danielle Bayard Jackson

Guests: Yue Xu, Julie Krafchick

Topics covered

• friendship influence
• dating advice
• romantic relationships
• dating archetypes
• support in dating

Keywords

• dating advice
• friendship
• romantic relationships
• dating archetypes
• support
• influence

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Dateable

Books & works: How to Be Dateable

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