Talking Polyamory with Millie & Nick from Decolonizing Love

About this episode

The episode features a discussion on polyamory with Millie and Nick from Decolonizing Love, exploring themes of decolonization and toxic masculinity.

"Decolonizing Love" is a social enterprise advocating for polyamory through a critical theory lens, examining the intersections of decolonization, desirability politics, and toxic masculinity. Millie Boella (she/they) and Nick (he/him), a polyamorous couple that live in Toronto, Canada, have been together for 15 years. Millie, of mixed Kenyan heritage with roots in the Dorobo, Nandi, Kikuyu, and Maasai tribes, has lived across Africa, the Middle East, Asia, Europe, before moving to Canada. Nick, originally from Montreal, is of Italian and Greek descent. Millie, a professional writer and artivist, has always embraced polyamory, drawing inspiration from their upbringing in Maasai territory. With over 20 years of activism, they founded the Toronto Non-Monogamous BIPOC group in 2017. Nick, who holds three science degrees and an MBA, became polyamorous in 2010. He is an executive, AI engineer and relationship coach with a strong background in volunteerism and teaching men to deprogram from toxic masculinity. In 2021, Millie and Nick launched "Decolonizing Love," which quickly gained significant traction, amassing over half a million followers across social media and earning features…

People in this episode

Host: Marcela Alonso

Guests: Millie Boella, Nick

Topics covered

• polyamory
• decolonization
• toxic masculinity
• activism
• BIPOC representation

Keywords

• polyamory
• decolonization
• toxic masculinity
• BIPOC
• activism
• relationship coaching
• social enterprise

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Decolonizing Love

Places: Toronto, Canada, Montreal, Maasai territory, Africa, Middle East, Asia, Europe

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