165: So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex… Did You Actually Want It? feat. She Comes First author Ian Kerner

About this episode

Elle and Vee discuss sexual desire and communication with Ian Kerner, exploring how early experiences shape adult relationships.

This week Elle and Vee chat with Ian Kerner, a licensed psychotherapist and bestselling author of She Comes First who helps individuals and couples build deeper desire, connection, and sexual confidence. Together, they unpack how everything from your early sexual experiences to the “sex scripts” you’ve internalized may be quietly shaping your turn-ons, your relationships, and your struggles with desire, ED, and communication. From de-centering intercourse and exploring coreplay to navigating ...

People in this episode

Hosts: Elle, Vee

Guest: Ian Kerner

Topics covered

• sexual desire
• communication
• relationships
• sexual confidence
• early sexual experiences

Keywords

• sexual desire
• communication
• relationships
• Ian Kerner
• She Comes First
• sexual confidence
• ED
• coreplay

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: She Comes First

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