Why Avoiding a Fight is Killing Your Relationship (and How to Fight Well) | Priya Parker
About this episode
Priya Parker discusses how avoiding conflict can harm relationships and shares strategies for healthy fighting.
Priya Parker comes back to argue that the fights you're avoiding aren't threatening your closest relationships; they're the only thing that can save them. Priya Parker is a facilitator and strategic advisor who has spent two decades helping churches, companies, and families fight better, not less. She's the acclaimed author of The Art of Gathering and her new book, The Art of Fighting , and she's spent her career inside the rooms where groups either fall apart or find their way back to each other. What you'll explore: Why "conflict is not sin," and how a moral hangover from that idea keeps good relationships stuck in surface-level peace The concept of "relational longing," the pulse underneath a fight that tells you whether it's worth having Priya's three-phase framework for a healthy fight, and the one question that unlocks the middle phase The "we're not a" clause: a phrase to listen for that reveals what a group is actually trying to become Why giant sequoias can't reproduce without fire, and what that means for families, teams, and marriages that go decades without a real disagreement If you've been mistaking distance for peace, this conversation is an invitation to find out…
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