How to Stop Keeping Score

About this episode

Emily Brown discusses how to stop keeping score in marriage and shift from resentment to connection.

Have you ever caught yourself silently keeping score as your husband sits down while you're still going> That quiet resentment starts to rise with every icky thought… "That must be nice…" "I never get a break…" You know it doesn't feel good. You know it's not what you want in your marriage. But you're not sure how to stop. In today's episode, I'm gently unpacking what's really happening beneath that frustration, and why it has less to do with your husband and more to do with what's going on inside your own heart and mind. We'll talk about: Why "keeping score" is so common (and so draining) The hidden thoughts that create resentment How to give yourself permission to rest (without guilt) Simple, practical ways to ask for help with clarity and peace And how to shift your home from tension… to connection Because here's the truth: You don't have to earn your rest. You're not alone. And your marriage was never meant to feel like a competition. Grab your earbuds and I'll walk you through how to lay down the scorecard and step into a more peaceful, life-giving way of loving your family, starting with your marriage in: How to Stop Keeping Score. Come work with me > here!

People in this episode

Host: Emily Brown

Topics covered

• marriage
• resentment
• self-care
• communication
• parenting

Keywords

• keeping score
• resentment
• rest
• help
• marriage

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