He Thought Women Were the Problem
About this episode
A conversation with Alex about his struggles with loneliness, relationships, and the misconceptions surrounding women and masculinity.
Alex is a straight Black man in his mid-forties who has only had one relationship in his entire life. For years, loneliness, rejection, and crushing social anxiety convinced him that women were the problem, and he reinvented himself as a huge jerk for most of his adult life. Deep down, though, he was carrying wounds much older and deeper than he realized. In this brutally honest conversation, we talk about sex work, incel culture, entitlement, masculinity, loneliness, and the long road from resentment to self-awareness. It's one of the most nuanced conversations I've ever had about the emotional lives of lonely men—and what it actually takes to heal. In this episode: The question at the heart of male loneliness: "What's wrong with me?" How rejection turned into resentment What it's like to spend decades searching for love without finding it How sex can meet a basic need but can't fill an emotional void Why he thought women were the problem The panic attacks that still happen when he approaches a woman My controversial theory about what lonely men actually need A dating strategy that takes the pressure off everyone SUPPORT THE SHOW! Subscribe to My Substack…
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