Ep 226: Kait & JJ Tomlin: Your Checklist Is the Problem

About this episode

Kait and JJ Tomlin discuss modern dating challenges and expectations with hosts Levi and Jennie Lusko.

Kait and JJ Tomlin (the couple behind Heart of Dating) join Levi and Jennie for a hilarious, super-helpful conversation about what dating looks like right now—and why so many women feel frustrated while so many men feel shut down. From “80% isn’t enough” expectations to the weird ways dating apps have turned people into filters and checkboxes, they get real about what’s happening in the church and what actually helps. Along the way, they unpack what to look for beneath the surface (hello, teachability + humility), why “trajectory” matters more than perfection, and how to think about attraction with more wisdom than a swipe. Plus, you’ll hear their own unexpected meet-cute—from a Zoom “blind date bachelor” moment to long-distance FaceTimes and a relationship built on character (wolf sweater and all). Connect with us on social! Kait: @kaitness JJ: @jjtomlin Levi: @levilusko Jennie: @jennielusko Fresh Life Church: @freshlife [Links] Heart of Dating: Heart of Dating Podcast: School of Dating (16-week mentorship): Get the 5 Gallon Bucket: https://bit.ly/sdl4sHY Get the Lusketeer Sticker: https://bit.ly/sdl4sHY Subscribe for more exclusive content: https://levilusko.com/hitl-subscribe…

People in this episode

Hosts: Levi Lusko, Jennie Lusko

Guests: Kait Tomlin, JJ Tomlin

Topics covered

• dating
• relationships
• expectations
• church
• attraction
• personal growth

Keywords

• dating apps
• expectations
• attraction
• relationships
• church
• humility
• teachability

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Heart of Dating, Fresh Life Church

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