My Awkward First Year in Denmark

My Awkward First Year in Denmark

From How to Live in Denmark by Kay Xander Mellish

April 29, 2026 · 9 min

About this episode

The episode discusses the awkward experiences of moving to Denmark and adapting to its culture.

One thing no one ever tells you about moving to a new country is the incredible awkwardness of it. As a newcomer, you are constantly doing or saying or planning the wrong thing, something that would be perfectly reasonable in your home culture but is weird or laughable in your new location. Like eating alone in a restaurant. Eating alone is no big deal in Manhattan, where I was coming from, and it's also common in Japan, Korea, and Hong Kong, where I had briefly lived. But not in Denmark. When I arrived in Denmark 25 years ago, I already had a job, as a content creator for a small tech company. What I didn't have was any friends, or any more than a superficial knowledge of Danish language or culture. My new colleagues were very pleasant, but like most Danes over 25, they had already built their social networks and weren't really looking for someone to hang out with after work. So I spent most of my free time alone, living temporarily at a small hotel by Peblinge Sø, where I chatted aimlessly with the receptionist (who believed I was in love with him, I later found out). Then I went out to eat by myself at a local restaurant. Danes generally don't eat alone at restaurants, so…

People in this episode

Host: Kay Xander Mellish

Topics covered

  • moving to a new country
  • cultural differences
  • social networks
  • personal experiences
  • food culture

Keywords

  • Denmark
  • cultural adjustment
  • expat experiences
  • food culture
  • social life

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: The Danish Year

Places: Denmark, Manhattan, Japan, Korea, Hong Kong, Peblinge Sø

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