About this episode

Kristen discusses the challenges of maintaining internal boundaries for individuals with ADHD and offers strategies for self-collaboration and repair after breaking those boundaries.

What if the reason you keep breaking your own boundaries isn’t a lack of discipline? In this episode, Kristen dives into Part 2 of the conversation on internal boundaries: the rules and limits we set for ourselves to protect the life we actually want. For many adults with ADHD, boundaries can trigger instant resistance. If rules, expectations, or authority were used to control, shame, or coerce you growing up, even your own reasonable limits can provoke an internal response of, “You’re not the boss of me.” Kristen explores how to shift from self-control to self-collaboration. You’ll learn why “should” boundaries rarely work, how perfectionism destroys self-trust, and what to do when you inevitably break a boundary. Instead of spiraling into guilt and shame, Kristen teaches you how to repair with yourself, get curious about what support was missing, and begin again. Because internal boundaries aren’t about restriction. They’re about protection. Watch this episode on YouTube Want help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED ! Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343 Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTok See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy…

People in this episode

Host: Kristen Carder

Topics covered

• internal boundaries
• ADHD
• self-collaboration
• self-control
• perfectionism
• guilt and shame
• self-trust

Keywords

• ADHD
• boundaries
• self-control
• perfectionism
• guilt
• self-trust
• internal response

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