Why Nice Guys Finish Last | Marni Kinrys and Adam Lane Smith

About this episode

Adam Lane Smith and Marni Kinrys discuss why nice guys finish last in dating and the psychological factors at play.

Most men today are doing everything they have been told to do to attract a woman. They are being kind, accommodating, agreeable, and endlessly pleasing. And it is working against them every single time. Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist, sits down with Marni Kinrys, dating coach and wing girl to men for over 22 years, for one of the most honest and practical conversations about what women actually feel on a date, why nice guys keep finishing last, and what the science says about why the very thing men think is working is exactly what is destroying their chances. What you will learn in this conversation: 1- Why a woman's attraction can completely reverse within minutes of a first impression and what actually changes it2- The four S's that create attraction in women and why most men are accidentally hitting zero of them3- Why a nervous man does not just fail to attract a woman but actively makes her feel unsafe and what her nervous system does as a result4- Why a woman who soothes a nervous man on a first date has already decided she will never sleep with him5- Why nice guys are training women to see them as employees instead of leaders and what that costs them in every…

People in this episode

Host: Adam Lane Smith

Guest: Marni Kinrys

Topics covered

• attraction
• dating advice
• relationship dynamics
• male behavior
• psychology of dating

Keywords

• nice guys
• dating
• attraction
• relationship advice
• male behavior

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