#450 Perception of Eros: The Psychology of Love w/ Marc Gafni

About this episode

Kyle Kingsbury and Dr. Marc Gafni discuss the psychology of love and the concept of Eros as perception in this episode.

Kyle Kingsbury welcomes back Dr. Marc Gafni to continue their short-form series on the “12 faces/phases of Eros,” focusing here on Eros as perception. Gafni defines Eros as radical aliveness desiring deeper contact and greater wholeness, a cosmic force uniquely moving through each person, and argues love is not merely emotion but a “perception-identification complex” in which one perceives another’s irreducible quality/value and identifies their essence with that beauty rather than surface flaws. He critiques modern fast, negative, scandal-driven attention and “pornographic” surface gazing as anti-Eros, contrasting it with deep perception captured by Avatar’s “I see you.” He says understanding love as perception makes it trainable, and extends the idea to orgasm as an illumination and affirmation of divine intimacy. Connect with Marc here: Instagram From Kyle: The Community is coming! Click here to learn more Our Sponsors: Let’s level up your nicotine routine with Lucy. Go to Lucy.co/KKP and use promo code (KKP) to get 20% off your first order. Lucy offers FREE SHIPPING and has a 30-day refund policy if you change your mind. These are the b3 bands I was talking about. They are…

People in this episode

Host: Kyle Kingsbury

Guest: Dr. Marc Gafni

Topics covered

• psychology of love
• Eros
• perception
• intimacy
• self-awareness
• modern relationships

Keywords

• Eros
• love
• perception
• intimacy
• self-awareness
• orgasm
• modern relationships
• psychology

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