EP 19: You Can't Fix People You Love
About this episode
Kier Gaines discusses how to support loved ones facing mental health challenges without trying to fix them.
Sometimes the people we love are carrying more than we can see. A new baby. A growing career. Depression. Anxiety. Burnout. The pressure of leadership. The weight of trying to hold a family together. When someone you love is struggling, your first instinct is usually to fix it but what if that's not actually what they need? In this mailbag episode, Kier responds to questions from listeners navigating some of life's heaviest moments. From supporting a spouse through postpartum depression and decision fatigue to searching for mentorship as a Black man without a roadmap, these conversations explore what it means to show up for the people you love without losing yourself in the process. Kier explains why leadership isn't always the answer, why support looks different than taking over, and why healing can't be forced even when your intentions are good. He also shares practical ways partners can encourage therapy, create emotional safety, and build relationships that prioritize the health of the family instead of winning individual battles. If you've ever wondered whether you're doing enough for someone you love or whether you're carrying too much this episode offers a different way to…
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- EP 22: Who Told You You’re Behind?
- EP 21: I Love My Kids… But I Don’t Love Being a Parent
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