About this episode

Dr. Morgan Anderson and Dr. Paul Conti discuss how to break free from repetitive relationship patterns rooted in childhood trauma.

Buckle up, y'all! This conversation is the one I wish I'd had in my 20s. If you've been stuck in the same painful dating cycle (different face, same heartbreak), this episode is going to hit different. I sat down with renowned psychiatrist Dr. Paul Conti, author of What's Going Right and one of the most thoughtful voices in mental health today, for a conversation that will completely change how you see your relationship patterns. Here's the truth bomb at the heart of this episode: you haven't had five failed relationships. You've had one failed relationship, five times over. And the moment you understand the pattern, everything change, because the next relationship isn't your sixth attempt. It's your first real one. In this episode, we get into: Why "just love yourself more" advice isn't working (and what actually heals the pattern) How childhood trauma quietly drives your repetition compulsion in adult relationships The brain concept of salience , and why you keep saying "there are no good men" when there actually are The one emotion doing the most damage in your relationships (spoiler: it's not anger or fear) This is essential listening for any woman healing her attachment…

People in this episode

Host: Dr. Morgan Anderson

Guest: Dr. Paul Conti

Topics covered

• relationship patterns
• attachment styles
• childhood trauma
• emotional healing
• toxic relationships
• self-worth

Keywords

• relationship advice
• dating cycles
• mental health
• emotional abuse
• anxious attachment
• self-love
• repetition compulsion

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: What's Going Right

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