Shouldn’t I be past this? Healing evolves, not erases

About this episode

The episode explores the complexities of assertiveness and self-advocacy in uncomfortable situations.

Have you ever walked away from a conversation thinking, I should have said something . . . or maybe, I’m glad I didn’t? In this episode, we sit in that uncomfortable in-between and ask ourselves: When is it wise to speak up and advocate for our rights, and when is it actually okay to step back and “escape”? We’re unpacking our own wrestles with assertiveness, people-pleasing, self-protection and pride. This is one of those nuanced, no-easy-answer conversations. Just two of us thinking out loud about power, safety, timing and what the wiser move might look like in the grey. Related links: The episode when Faith talks about highways and off-ramps. ✨ Ready to be a little kinder to yourself? Download our free 5-day self-compassion challenge —with daily prompts, gentle exercises and tools to help you stop the spiral of self-criticism and start speaking to yourself like a friend.

People in this episode

Host: Mums At The Table

Topics covered

• assertiveness
• people-pleasing
• self-protection
• communication
• healing

Keywords

• healing
• communication
• self-compassion
• assertiveness
• people-pleasing

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