Defined By Our Deficits - "Taking It to Our Knees: Declaring Who I Am"

Defined By Our Deficits - "Taking It to Our Knees: Declaring Who I Am"

June 12, 2026 · 9 min · Episode 247

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Craig D. Lounsbrough discusses how individuals often define themselves by their deficits rather than their assets, leading to a distorted self-image and missed opportunities for growth.

Defined By Our Deficits “Any deficit that you have can never stand against the asset that that deficit is waiting to become.” Craig D. Lounsbrough You know, we come to define ourselves more by what we lack than by what we possess. We define ourselves by the successes that we haven’t had, the relationships that didn’t work, the careers that never happened, and the dreams that never got off the ground because they never made it to the runway. All of these things tell us everything that we are not. The assets that we don’t have. The confidence that we lack. The intelligence that is never intelligent enough. The talents that we don’t possess, and the determination that is never sufficiently determined. We see ourselves as a sad compilation of everything that we are not. These deficits result in shattered relationships. Shuttered opportunities. Job losses. Financial failures. Addictions. Upended careers. Friendships that went up in flames and the charred remains of families that fell to the same fate. The shame and embarrassment mocks us, telling us that we are everything that is wrong with everything that went wrong. Surrounded by so many failures that evidence both the depth and…

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