4 Step Approach To Stop Obsessing Over Someone

4 Step Approach To Stop Obsessing Over Someone

From Love Life With Matthew Hussey by Matthew Hussey

May 11, 2026 · 18 min

About this episode

Matthew Hussey discusses a framework to help listeners stop obsessing over someone in dating.

Have you ever stared at a text message for 20 minutes trying to decode it and then another 20 minutes trying to figure out how to respond to it? In this week’s episode, I dive into the obsession and overthinking that can happen in dating, when every text, silence, and tiny interaction suddenly feels loaded with meaning. (And yes, I act out the entire internal meltdown we’ve all had while trying to craft the “perfect” reply.) More importantly, I share a powerful framework I teach to my coaching clients called the “CALM Method,” designed to help you stop spiraling and regain emotional control. We explore the idea of the “bodyguard," which is the protective part of you formed from past experiences that tries to keep you safe, but often also creates anxiety. I’ll walk you through practical steps to calm that fear, reconnect with yourself, and focus on real compatibility instead of fantasy. --- ►► If you want to stop feeling invisible on the dating apps, get out of situationships, and get real commitment, check out my free online masterclass Dating With Results: DatingWithResults.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

People in this episode

Host: Matthew Hussey

Topics covered

  • obsession
  • dating
  • emotional control
  • self improvement
  • communication

Keywords

  • obsession
  • CALM Method
  • dating apps
  • emotional control
  • communication

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Dating With Results

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