Have We Optimized Ourselves Out of Love?

Have We Optimized Ourselves Out of Love?

From Love-ly: Exploring Modern Relationships by Immigrantly Media

August 28, 2026 · 40 min

About this episode

In this episode, Mehak and guest Jeffre Behm discuss the challenges of modern dating and the pressures that come with it.

Jeffre Behm went on a first date from a dating app, drove to a mini golf course, and spent the whole night realizing neither of them actually wanted to be there. He didn't know her well enough to suggest something they'd both enjoy, so they defaulted to what they thought a "date" was supposed to look like. It's the kind of story that sounds small until you realize how many of us are doing the exact same thing. In this episode, Mehak sits down with Jeffre Behm, dating and relationship content creator, educator, and the founder of Love School, to ask why dating feels like a second job when we say we want love more than ever. They get into why Jeffre no longer believes in soulmates, the blurry and constantly shifting line between friend and romantic partner, and "practice dating," the trend of going out with people you'd normally swipe past just to lower the stakes. This one is a nudge to stop treating dating like a performance review and start treating it like getting to know a person. Also, a challenge: the next time you're in an elevator, say hi. You can find Jeffre on socials @jeffrebehm on Instagram and TikTok. Hosted by: Mehak @whathemehak on TikTok Producer: Shei Yu | Content…

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Host: Mehak

Guest: Jeffre Behm

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Organizations: Love School, Immigrantly Media

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