You're Not Unlucky in Love, You're Addicted to Intensity with Allie Zheng (@yourlocaltorontogirlie)

About this episode

Mehak discusses dating and love with Allie Zheng, exploring themes of intensity and heartbreak.

Mehak (⁠@whathemehak⁠) shares a Ramadan and dating update — including her hot take that divorce is actually chic — before sitting down with Toronto's own Allie Zheng (@itsyourlocaltorontogirlie) to talk all things love, heartbreak, and what it really means to be a lover girl. Allie gets real about her dating patterns: falling too fast, chasing intensity, and taking shortcuts to intimacy — and what she's had to unlearn. She breaks down two relationships that had the internet talking: "Vancouver man," who she met at a Toronto speed-dating event, and whose lies about his age only came out after the breakup; and a four-month relationship that ended when his parents couldn't get on board with her openness about mental health, right as they were planning to move in together. They also get into the questions every girl in her dating era is asking — how many dates is too many, what to do when a guy orders for you, and how to actually slow down when your whole personality is going all in. Plus: Allie's breakup healing routine, surviving Reddit and TikTok hate, and the lessons she's taking into her next chapter. Connect with Allie @itsyourlocaltorontogirlie⁠ on TikTok. Hosted by: Mehak…

People in this episode

Host: Mehak

Guest: Allie Zheng

Topics covered

• dating
• love
• heartbreak
• relationships
• mental health
• self-discovery

Keywords

• dating patterns
• intimacy
• breakup healing
• mental health
• relationship advice

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Immigrantly Media

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